By Pam Reid
On this particular day, the one-year anniversary of my move from New York to Georgia in 2004, my husband’s flight to Georgia was scheduled to land on time, and my brother-in-law was going to pick him up for me. I was about to burst with excitement about my plans to share with him an idea for what would be the next big thing I was going to do. I say the next ‘big thing’ because I had enjoyed some fairly big things thus far, and since I considered leaving my corporate job a big thing too, I believed that the appropriate next step along my journey was to launch a new business. To kick-start it, I would allow the author in me to make her big reveal. I had the storyline ready as well as the corresponding business plan and strategy.
My hubby walked through the door and as soon as he gave the last of our three children a kiss and hug, I was in his face with my exciting news. He smiled while I shared and unfolded my plan at one hundred miles an hour. When I was done, I searched his face for mutual excitement and love. Instead there was a sweet smile followed by an “OK.” He then turned and walked away, not with disrespect, but he’d heard what I said and simply moved on.
I stood there however, stiff, jaw agape, for at least 30 seconds as I watched him walk away. The only thing I can say about me that day is that something happened. Something changed in my mind and in my spirit. You may be reading this and thinking that I moved on and executed my plan anyway, but I didn’t. Instead, I folded in half the papers I had printed about publishing and my business plan and tucked them in my leather organizer. There those papers remained, year after year, until I finally threw them away in 2013.
Yes. You read it right. For nine years, I carried around that dream – literally. Each year I would change the calendar insert in my organizer from the old year to the New Year, and each year I would look at the papers absentmindedly and then tuck them back in the organizer the same way. To this day, I can’t tell you why I physically carried this particular dream around for nine years, but I can tell you that the experiences I had and the lessons I learned in my journey from, that day up to now have been absolutely incredible, and the people I’ve met along the way . . . even more so.
I’ve learned how to FLOW – Feel Love Over Worry. I’ve learned how to feel love over weakness, over weariness, over wrongdoings, over wanting and wishing, and over whatever it is that might try to keep me from being my highest and best self and living my best life. Being able to FLOW means you immerse yourself in the kind of love that overcomes, endures, protects, and perseveres – whatever the situation or circumstance.
Easily done? Nope.
The ability to FLOW often comes in the wake of pain, grief, disappointment, discomfort, or just plain settling. You have to be intentional about minding the business of YOU, to be able to FLOW.
Where is this LOVE and how do you access it? It depends on what grounds you, where you draw power fro, what you acknowledge as your source. For me, it’s faith. So the LOVE in FLOW is found in scripture and spending time with God.
WORRY. You’ve had the desire to start your own business, or perhaps you want to go back to school. Maybe it’s time to leave a job you no longer enjoy. You don’t take the leap because you worry. You worry whether it’s the right thing to do. You worry about the outcome. You worry about how you will sustain yourself, and what others might think or say.
Love for worry can be found in Philippians 4:6-7:
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace
of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.”
WEAKNESS. There are just some people and some things, especially those that impose on your time, that you just can’t seem to say no to. You want to say no but you don’t. You agree to do things you really don’t want to do, including things you no longer have a passion for, and you end up feeling put-upon and resentful.
Love for weakness can be found in 2 Corinthians 12:9:
“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”
WEARINESS. Overwhelmed, over-committed, and worn-out from maintaining a crazy schedule, managing unrealistic deadlines, as well as trusting and believing for something that has yet to manifest. It’s easy to become weary living a busy, noisy life when peace and simplicity are all you truly need and crave.
Love for weariness can be found in Psalm 55:22:
“Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall.”
WRONGDOINGS. We all make mistakes. Sometimes we are hurt by the words and actions of others. Carrying any shame or guilt from our own mistakes or holding onto the wrongdoings of others doesn’t serve our mind, body and soul well.
Love for wrong doings can be found in Ephesians 4:32:
“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”
WANTING and WISHING. If you’re like most people you’ve heard yourself saying, “ I want this,” “I want that,” “I wish I had this,” “I wish I had that.” All this wanting and wishing causes stress, supports a spirit of lack, and can lead to jealousy and depression. A spirit of gratitude for what we do have will always serve us best.
Love for wanting and wishing can be found in Psalm 37:4:
“Take delight in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.”
There’s so much love. There’s love for WRATH, for WAFFLING, for WHATEVER or WHOEVER is a barrier to all that God has prepared you to do, to become, and to receive.
Today, my goal is to carry only love. When you FLOW, those around you FLOW too. Any goals, great ideas, giving opportunities, and time with grands are acted upon right away. You benefit. They benefit.
The world benefits from you being at your best and highest self – living your best life.