Prescription for the holiday blues

holiday_blues_shutterstock_7287184Warm memories were the norm for most of my Christmas pasts. From the mystical – the birth of the Christ child, to the magical – display of bright lights on trees, in stores and the town square, the Christmas season was something to look forward to, usually a wonderful experience.

One exception to warm memories was a Christmas holiday spent in the late 80’s.  Due to a divorce, my teenage children were living here in Georgia with their father and I was in Florida. They had planned to visit with my parents and me in Jacksonville the day after Christmas. It was agonizing waiting for their arrival, never having been away from them during the holidays.

I remember Mother saying, “This is only temporary.” It was true. I’ve used that mantra many times since then.

Some see the exchange of gifts as contributing to the season becoming too commercialized. Selecting a gift for a family member, friend or someone we don’t even know can be a labor of love, if that is our outlook, from the caring of the gift selection to the creativity of the wrapped package with colorful paper and special ribbon used to tie bows. Guess it comes down to a person’s perspective. One train of thought says it’s better to give than to receive. Another says giving and receiving are the same, a win-win situation when balanced. Feeding the homeless may cause the one giving to feel good, at the same time it may satisfy a hunger not just for food, but for spiritual gratitude in the hearts of the men and women on the street being fed.

Religion and even the stargazers say that this is the most spiritual time of the year. It is a mixture of joy and sadness for many. Memories of loss seem to surface at this time along with exuberance, and hope feels the air. Spiritual truths are somewhat paradoxical like “surrender to win” or “let go and let God”.  It’s been my experience that an awakening (when the light bulb comes on inside) often is preceded by a degree of emotional pain. By staying with it and knowing “this too shall pass” some healing/growth takes place and each time life gets better and better, as an inner peace and happiness increases.

While contemplating the joy and sorrow of the holiday season, I received this message, with the premise, “Christ in you, the hope of glory”:

Prescription for the Holiday Blues

Man and woman without the knowledge of “the Divine” at the core of their being may become depressed and possibly despondent believing themselves to be separate, hopeless and without power. Self love and the affirmation of a higher existence of Grace within gives humanity its balance to become happy, useful and whole.

Life’s circumstances can be discouraging but the truth of who we really are – spirit having a human experience – gives us peace, an exhilarated life and even at times ecstasy.

Choose your thoughts wisely and choose again with a new beginning each moment. Practice gratitude and the power of positive thinking; act as if, for the creation has already taken place, just waiting for you to bring it into manifestation with your own affirmations and imaginings. Turn your sights to the beauty of nature and in those around you.

For beyond this facade there is only God and there is nowhere that God is not.

Wishing you a happy, healthy and prosperous New Year

Maureen Ramsay Hughes

Maureen Ramsay Hughes is an inspirational writer, a former member of the advertising sales team for Fayette Woman magazine, and a devoted mother and grandmother. She invites your emails to

December 31, 2009